Re·sil·ience: The capacity to recover quickly
from difficulties. Toughness, a.k.a. a “thick skin”.
is that “thick
over the years, built layer by layer, experience by experience. Calluses on
your hands build in time as the stresses of the world impart its force upon
your once soft and supple skin. The hardening and thickening of your dermis are
important protection for your hands. It provides resilience to the elements you
are exposed to. Calluses are not destructive – they are designed to protect
your body and reduce sensations, to enhance performance. They grow to allow you
to continue to work at whatever it is you are doing. The resilience is
adaptive, not limiting.
oldest daughter, Madison, has trained and won fights as a Muay Thai fighter.
Her hands developed calluses as she has got stronger. What always amazed me
when I held her hands, was just how soft and gentle they were as well. She is
strong and protected, but her hands and personality are soft and inviting.
People might tell you resilience hardens you. They are wrong. The true meaning
of resilience is accepting the world and forces that affect us with the adapted
protection of experience to shield ourselves from harm – not
hide from it.
is an important component of personal development. For some people, they simply
have not been exposed to enough of it. They wither or become injured
(personally or physically) under duress. They crumble or hide when pushed.
Their dreams are constantly halted or never attempted because of the perceived
imminent threats they face. Without stress they don’t build
entrepreneurs and business owners constantly build resilience. We are sometimes
told we won’t succeed. People look will look at you as you describe your goals
and ambitions and they might sneer or fold their arms in judgment. They’ll poke holes in
your plans; they’ll
say you don’t know what you’re doing. These will be people close to you. They
will whisper in your ear that maybe you shouldn’t do what you’re doing. “Why would you do
that risky?” “Do
you really know what you’re
doing?” They’ll say almost
anything to draw to your attention that maybe you shouldn’t be taking on a risk
that you view as an opportunity.
you have a clear vision of your own future, a lot of people won’t really
understand you. Most people aren’t hard-wired for entrepreneurship. They don’t
understand what it means to look at an opportunity and see the blue sky versus
all the red flags. In order to exist in a world where you are exceptional and
viewed as different, you must build resilience.
will find as you become more successful, more popular, and your products or
services are seen, purchased and exposed to more people, that people you have
never met will manufacture and share their own opinions about you that aren’t accurate. How
you deal with this – the strategies you put in place and the calluses you build
– determines whether those voices become prophecy, fuel, or simply noise.
internet and social media platforms are where everyone has an opinion to share.
These are massive online aggregators for people to share opinions and comments.
Not all of them will be kind or supportive. Opinions are like assholes,
everyone’s got one, and some people choose to be one – an
asshole, I mean.
order to drive forward and succeed with your vision for your best life, you
must become resilient. Resilience requires intestinal fortitude beyond the
basic strength that it takes to wake up every day and plow a new field or set a
new course as we do as entrepreneurs and business owners. Choose to be
resilient in the face of not only adversity, which gets our competitive blood
flowing, but plain old negative feedback. Someone else’s notion of what they
think our lives or our business should be or what our opportunities are should
not define us. Don’t allow them to dictate your successes or dictate your